You have thought about it for a long time, you have searched near and far, and now you have found Me! Mistress Naomi, the Domme that will introduce you to the oh so craved world of BDSM. You chose wisely! Now here are some of my ground rules to keep in mind when contacting me in your respectful request to book a session.
KNOW WHAT YOU WANT
One of the most annoying things for a pro-domme like me is a sub not knowing what they want when they email me with a billion questions/statements like:
- “I want to be dominated”
- “I’m not sure what I want…”
- “Can you give me some ideas?”
Sure the world of BDSM is very vast and the opportunities are endless, but anyone interested in this lifestyle should have at least a vague idea of what he is looking to achieve during a session.
- Do you want money taken from you?
- Do you want to be spanked?
- Do you want to be tied up, humiliated, and punished?
- Or maybe you have a specific fetish?
I have a list of the sessions I engage in clearly written on my website. Be sure to take the time and read over those very carefully before initiating any contact with me. This way if you don’t see your “fetish”, then you can just keep searching and avoid wasting my time. There is nothing wrong about not being sure of your desires, just take some time to really think and research before you start writing your email to me.
You must also understand clearly that I am not an escort!!! I will NOT satisfy your sexual needs!!!
MAKE SURE YOU ARE READY
For my first time subs, I understand that you might be overcome by a list of factors such as nervousness, indecisiveness and/or fear. However none of these are any excuse to flake on me. I take a great deal of time to prepare and pamper myself for our time together. I also collect deposits from ALL subs for this very reason. If you do not show up for your appointment, you will most likely never be able to schedule another one in the future. You will also be added to the “blacklist”. Once you get on this list, you’re done!!! If you disappoint me before you even meet me, your chances of ever being in the company of ANY dommes are slim to none. I don’t give second chances and I absolutely despise my time being wasted!
BE RESPECTFUL
I will only oblige to submissively serious inquiries. I demand to be treated with great respect and nothing less. Always be polite, and always address me as “Mistress”. NEVER EVER call me “baby”, “sweetie”, “honey” or anything related to those! You will get dismissed and blocked! Don’t ever argue or try to negotiate my boundaries. Read my website thoroughly and understand the type of sessions I offer. You are not an exception to my rules! Begging or negotiating boundaries is pathetic and will get you nowhere!
Your first method of contact should always be through my booking form on my website. I don’t accommodate last minute bookings, all appointments must be booked at least 24 hours in advance. You must fill out my contact form in its entirety if you desire to book me. Respect ALL limits, rules and etiquette. Not following instructions and being disrespectful is a sign of ignorance and stupidity. If I have to refer you to my website after each of your questions, you have failed! You mostly likely will not get an appointment with me.
PHONE & EMAIL ETTIQUETTE
After you have secured a booking with me and sent your deposit, I will give you my cell phone number with instructions on when to call or text. When contacting me via phone, always begin by saying "hello Mistress Naomi, this is (your name)". Do not interrupt me, do not ever ask for anything illegal, and ALWAYS address me as “Mistress”. Another huge pet peeve I have is clients emailing me with questions like: This instantly puts you in the “bad client” list. It normally means you are looking for FREE dirty talk, and I know it. You won’t get it!!! I will delete your email, and any chances of actually being in my presence are out the door. If you are too nervous to meet for a session or you just want one over the phone, you will have to pay. Check for pricing on my “Tribute” page.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make when approaching me via email is to write one or two word emails. Things like “HI...”, “I want a session…”, or “You’re hot…” will most likely guarantee your email to be deleted without even a second look. Contact like this says a lot about you; firstly, it shows little to no respect for the process. If you don’t take the time to read my website on how to contact me, why should I take the time to respond to you? Second, it shows your inability to follow instructions and obey simple rules. If you can’t do that, then you will probably not follow the directions I give you during your session. Last but not least, it tells me that you are not really serious and/or ready to dive into the world of domination. To sum this up, if you think you’re ready for your first encounter with me, the number one rule is very simple - READ MY WEBSITE!!!
PERSONAL SLAVE = BROKE = BLOCKED
If you are so broke or cheap and you can’t afford to tribute me, but still decide to approach me with some question in the lines of “Can I be your personal slave?” or “How may I serve you (Without actually paying you for it)?” Be prepared to be IGNORED. If I need a personal slave or someone to serve me for free, it would be of my choosing, and trust me, I have a LONG LIST to choose from. Don’t be cheap, because my sessions aren’t! If you can’t afford it at the moment, wait, save and then make contact.
DO NOT NEGOTIATE OR ASK FOR A DISCOUNT
Haggling or negotiating over my prices is a huge RED flag, and a sign of major disrespect. You most likely will never get a booking with me.
NO SEXUAL FAVORS OR ESCORT SERVICES
Just STOP right now! If you are about to ask me any question related to any sexual activity, better just assume that the answer is NO. I NEVER engage in any sort of sexual activity with my subs. This is stated clearly in the sessions that I offer. Just because you saw some porno online where the dominatrix had sex with her submissive, does not mean that is going to EVER happen in real life, so just don’t
CANCELATIONS
I understand that sometimes life happens, and plans get interfered with. The day of your appointment you get stuck in a meeting/traffic or you simply get nervous and petrified. You must let me know as soon as possible if something comes up that causes you to cancel. This of course means that you will have to forfeit your deposit. I also expect a gift to show good faith and get you back in my good graces. If you need ideas, check out my WISHLIST.
DON’T BE LATE
Don’t be late and always show up on time! If you are running late YOU MUST CALL to let me know. You will of course have to be punished for your tardiness in some way as I do not tolerate it. if you show up late don’t expect to get your full session, and do expect to be charged for a full session price.
DON’T BE EARLY
Never just show up early…ever! Discretion is a big part of this business and to show up early is just plain rude. Understand, that I may be in a session with another sub, or maybe I am still getting ready. If our meeting place is a dungeon then maybe the room I booked for your session is not ready yet. If for some reason you happen to be early ALWAYS contact me first via text, and request if I can see you earlier. Sometimes it is not an issue, but always ask first.
HYGIENE
TAKE A SHOWER!!! This may sound too obvious to even mention, but I have to stress the importance of your hygiene. I take very great care of myself and always make sure I am at my best when in session with a sub and I expect the same in return. If you show up dirty and smelly, I will shame you and make you take a shower!
NEVER ASK FOR PERSONAL INFORMATION
Don’t ever ask for personal information such as
- “Are you married?”
- “Do you have a boyfriend?”
- “Do your parents know you do this type of work?”
Or probably the most hated question:
- “What else do you do?”
Think about what comes out of your mouth before you speak. None of that information is any of your business, and in regards to the question “What else do you do?” – Seriously, you just paid me a huge sum of money in a very short amount of time, why would you think I have any other job, and even if I did have a regular job, do you think it is any of your business? The last thing I need is a stalker or clinger.
TIPPING IS ALWAYS WELCOME
At the end of your session, if you had an absolute great time – let me know. An email or a text message will do. One of the best ways to show how much you appreciated my time and/or enjoyed the session is by tipping. You may also get me something off my WISHLIST.